Monday, March 30, 2009

Dinner with friends


Friday, last week, we invited Lan's friend and his wife (Prince & Mia) to come have dinner at our home. Previously, I have always hesitated to invite anybody to our home, simply because we do not have a private living room and our kitchen is so small that 2 people in it will make it look so cramped... However, their kindness while I was away is very meaningful to me. They invited Lan for dinner and even sent some food to Lan several times while I was absent!
Hence, in return, we decided to invite them to our home. I volunteered to cook, where Lan was so kind to help me with everything. The menu was:
1. Yellow Fried Chicken
2. Butter Chilli Prawns
3. Sop Sayur Asin (yg mana lupa difoto!)
4. Dessert: Swiss Roll Cake.
Thank God all the food turned out to be good. Especially, the Swiss Roll Cake! Lan specifically asked me to make this one for him, I was nervous whether I can roll the cake successfully or not. Voila! It turned out well, although there was still room for improvement. Hehe...
We are very happy that they liked what we offered them. I personally enjoyed the fellowship with them. Mia and I had interesting conversation about our young marriages. Yeah... we are very similar, although Lan & I got married awhile before them.

Moving on... While I was looking through the photos from our camera's memory card, I found some photos that were taken before I went home. So, since I am home and trying to recover from my coughing and painful shoulder, I started to scrap some more.
And... I love how it turned out!

Those are photos when Lan & I had dinner in 2 different restaurant; The Pizza Express and Harbour City Chinese Restaurant. If I zoomed out the photos, I still can see eczema around my face... it's a painful experience that I pray and hope will never replay in my life.
Anyways, more photos I posted in my FB.



Monday, March 23, 2009

Enhancing our marriage

As soon as I returned home, I asked Lan kindly to read along with me a book titled "Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman. It started when Daddy Timotius Arifin gave a sermon about Love and he mentioned this book, I searched for it but found no luck in Indonesia. They were all sold out! However, thanks a million to Lita & Santo for such a precious gift for us. It is a great book! We are blessed that we are given the opportunity to discover truths from this book to make our marriage better; to understand each other deeper.
The book talks about, as you know from the title, 5 Love Languages. Many of us, including both of us, often 'talk' of our own love language to our spouse, whereas our spouse's language might not be the same one as ours. Hence, this book helps Lan and I to learn about our love languages and how we can speak each other's love language(s) appropriately. This way, we keep each other's LOVE TANK full! :)

  1. The first one is Words of Affirmation.
    Lan & I discovered that this is Lan's primary love language. He loves it when I praise, encourage and say positive things towards and about him. It brings out his confidence, it makes him happy and above all, it makes him feel I love him.
    There were times when I said mean things and negative things, which turned to a huge fight! Now that I know that what I say is very important to him, I will careful watch the words that come out of me.
    Above all, I want him to know that I love him always, right? :)
  2. Quality time...
    Is my primary love language! Yes, I recall the time where I beg Lan would give me his undivided attention! I love it when we talk, giggle, tease each other, spend time going out together. I love it!
    I hated it when I talked to him and he is just answering while focusing on his laptop! Hence, Lan starts to learn to give me his undivided attention, and I am so very HAPPY! :)
  3. Who likes Receiving Gifts?
    That is also one of the 5 love languages. For both of us, this language is not really relevant, although we both appreciate the gifts from each other, the thoughts inside it. However, given many gifts cannot compare to the quality time Lan gives me and the words of affirmation I give to Lan. :)
  4. Acts of Service
    By all means, helping with the chores around the house or projects we are busy with or just about helping in any little things... Surprisingly, for both of us, this is our secondary love language! (Yes, we can have more than one love languages!)
    So, discovering this, we try to help each other in things we do. E.g., I just found out that Lan hates doing the laundry, I then don't mind doing the laundry to keep him happy. On the other hand, Lan knows I like our kitchen to be super duper spotless, so he is more careful and try to keep the kitchen clean.
  5. Last but not least, Physical Touch.
    Not necessarily Sexual touch. It can be giving a massage, hugging, kissing, holding his/her hands. This, unexpectedly, is also my primary love language. (A person can be bilingual, right?) I always feel warm when Lan hugs me. With him being near me, I feel secure and loved.

Well, I have reviewed this book according to our experience reading this book and discovering the love languages that we 'speak'. I greatly recommend every couple in this world to read this book! It seems to be a simple and fundamental thing, but it has great effects on our relationship if we really understand the point this book is making.
If you check the WEBSITE, you'll find out there are other editions of this book, which are for teenagers, children, and singles!

Thursday, March 19, 2009

I am home!

Not just any home, but my husband's and my home... I am so glad to be back together with him again. It was a series of long flights and 'stomach filled with butterflies' feeling, but it was so worthed it!

I had great times with my parents and siblings in Bali. My eczema eventually was gone after careful medication and additional treatment. Praise God! However, I missed Lan terribly... I cannot deny that!
My life, my feelings are so much different after I have Lan in my life. Of course, in a good way! I felt I am not complete when we are apart. Thank God for such a wonderful husband I have!

When we were finally together again, after two months, we hugged tightly. I was so speechless. Millions of emotions were bursting out of me. I was in joy.
I pray that never again, I will be apart from him. Next time, if I must, I will take him along with me...

And, now is blogwalking time! :D

Sunday, March 01, 2009

Dear hun...

I am coming back...
Two weeks from now...
I'll hug you more than I've hugged you before,
I'll kiss you like I never kissed before,
And I'll love you more than ever each day.

See you very soon!
I am so looking forward to share with you the days I spent without you. And even more excited to share all the future days with you!
Never again, I hope and pray, I be far from you.

Love you, darling!

XOXO

Your LSR

Ps. Happy birthday, my dearest little sister! You're eight now, such a big and beautiful girl!